Who doesn’t you like you?
Sometimes it is easy to notice the people that bug us or are different from us. However, if we focus on what we might have in common such as hopes and dreams or fears and losses, we might get along a bit better. I was reading a book recently about how if you don’t like someone they probably don’t like you either so maybe try to think of one thing to like about them and then they might start to like you.
Getting along for some adults is harder than a toddler learning to share. If you work or live with someone that is difficult, try to make a list of at least three things you like about that person or used to like about them. If you can’t find three, try to think of three things you have in common. For example, if you are both parents or love football. Even a simple thing can help you feel a little connected. I am grateful to only have a couple of people I find it difficult to get along with. I love to be around most people and listen to their stories.
I used to say I loved everyone when I was in my early twenties, I worked with a middle aged guys who told me wait till you get older, you won’t like most people. You will find people to be rude, mean, selfish, and unwilling to change. I am happy to report I am at my mid-life point and I still find more people to like than dislike. I think it is all about what we focus on, I choose to focus on the good in people not the negative. I also surround myself with amazing, encouraging and positive people. How about you?
Take a few moments today to make an effort to reach out and connect with someone you may not like. You never know, that person could become a new friend!